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Last week, we talked about the importance of sharing hobbies and activities with your spouse.
While it can make life interesting to be married to someone who is so deeply engaged with an activity they love, it can quickly become difficult. Once the honeymoon period has passed, you might find that your spouse begins to gradually move toward his or her favorite pastime—eventually favoring it over spending time together. A passionate interest can take over their personality and their life and yours, too! It can feel totally intimidating when you feel like you have to compete with something your spouse is obsessed with. Chances are, they want to have a healthy relationship too, so speak the truth lovingly as you let them know what you need.
Rather than complaining, brainstorm some good suggestions before your approach your spouse. Ask your spouse to block off 1 or 2 nights a week to spend with you, for date night, family movie night, or something similar. The biggest payoff for you? When he or she has an activity planned, schedule some time with your friends or take your kids on a fun outing.
Whatever you do, give yourself something to look forward to! And you never know—when you start taking some time to do your own thing while they do theirs, they might even begin to miss you. That may sound strange, but stay with us here.
You might find that you share the best conversations or experiences together during these times. There are so many opportunities for deep, meaningful intimacy to be forged just by showing interest in something your husband or wife loves. Why not be a part of something your spouse enjoys, in some way? Does your spouse have an all-consuming hobby? How have you learned to spend more time together?
Leave a comment and let us know! I hope this reaches dr Les and Leslie. We were in love and happy. We have come to a very difficult impass and I am hoping you can reach out to her or just pray for us. My husband has always been a car fanatic since our dating days. I used to accompany him to car meets, races, mechanic shops, junk yards for parts, etc. It was honestly so boring to me but this was the only way I could spend time with him.
Even as a married couple before having kids he would have project cars that he would spend every evening and weekend outside with while I was inside alone and pregnant. This caused a lot of problems and distance between us emotionally. I never took the gentle and kind approach like Dr Les and Leslie talk about in this blog. I was way too bitter and resentful but I made sure he knew how I felt. The only reason it has gotten better is because he has temporarily decided that it was financially better to get rid of his expensive car projects and car payments and opt for a reliable vehicle he could pay cash for.
He has been around way more, spending more time with me and our son every evening and on the weekends. Please pray for our marriage and for me to be able to speak to him kindly and lovingly. I relate to this so much! Oh my. I could have written them myself. He is amazing with cars.
To the woman dating my husband rc engines, welds, body work… Etc. There is no doubt he has a talent for it. I do not have a hobby or passion like he does. I work all day and find most hobbies exhausting at that point. I feel resentment because I feel like without me and my income he would not be able to do more than half of what he does.
All he can talk about is what car he needs to drive the child around in. He actually has a Ferrari, Nissan z, Nissantruck and car hauler, boat and side by side. He wants more all the time. He has purchased cars without telling me and hid them from me. He has purchased expensive car parts in the middle of the night without telling me and going against my wishes. At the end of the day… It continues to be a problem.
He has very little concept of how much money he spends and how much time he devotes to his obsession. I sometimes question if cars turn him on more than I do. Wow…i feel for all u ladies! Im sadly in the same boat tho my husband uses the car thing as an excuse. Now its become an obsession. He comes home from work and straight to the garage.
He no longer does family stuff with us let alone eats with us. I tell myself that he going thru a midlife crisses as he is turning 43 and hangs w 20 yr olds at car meets. Ive tried the whole getting into his hobby tho yes boring but I will take any moment with him even after him telling me he has no interest in what I do!
Ya…im so lost right now…I feel like I dont know him anymore…. And spends a fortune on it too. Then after a few months, he moves on to the next thing. And so on and so forth. I have tried what this article says many times. It works for a week or two then he goes right back to his obsession. I just wish he could put a quarter of that obsessive energy into us. Has anyone found any other working solutions or compromises to this obsessive behavior? So glad to hear from other women going through the same. I feel like he picks racing over everything, everytime.
I am so alone within our relationship. I have stop working full time and enjoy working part-time as I am sick of seeing our hard earn cash being blindly splurged into HIS hobby. Tough tough one…. I sat back and could literally imagine myself writing this exact comment one or two years in the future, but replacing cars with disc golf. Wtf is wrong with men? My husband is also obsessed with disc golf. I asked him tonight if it was seriously so wrong to ask that he be home for an entire weekend just ONE TIME and he said it was like I am asking him to quit being himself.
I am absolutely at my wits end. Men are completely selfish and childish is To the woman dating my husband rc problem. We have 2 boys 10 and 10 months. Music… He makes and produces music.
Hes got friends and people who pay him 20 there 50 here. Basically his cigs and gas. And time! After the second baby I feel he is not a worker or a provider…. At the moment he is only making a week. He knows how to manipulate me by using the love I have for him. God knows I love him and I want it to work. I just cant get over the resentment. My husband is obsessed with baseball, basketball, tennis, golf, horse racing, harness and throughbred, hockey, just anything that has sports attached.
He does not participate in any sport outside our home. Our entire married life has been scheduled around who or what is playing or going on. He has gotten worse as he has aged. Our sex life became non-existent within 1 year of our later in life marriage. He was 53, never married, no children, and no steady career. After 6 years of college, he drove a truck, mainly, I believe, because he could not watch sports if he worked a job.
So he changed jobs frequently. I sometime, most of the time, feel like I took on the role of his mother.
I am here because I had financial stability, and do the other mundane day to day chores. My children love him, he is a good man, kind, notice I left out loving, because his love of life is sports. I have told him many times, the Cardinals, Blues, etc will not care or even have a moment of silence when he passes.
Would I marry him again?To the woman dating my husband rc
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